Aug 02 2009
Best places to find a possible date
I’m very comfortable with my dating life as of right now. However, if I was looking for someone, it would not be the club or bar. The club or bar scene are good scenes to meet other, but not the best. Here is my list of top 5 places to find a date. These are in no particular order.
1. The grocery store, go to Whole Foods or Wegmans. Here is what I do, I scope out what is in a person’s cart. Two reasons, 1. Because I like to have new ideas to eat. 2. You can make some assumptions (becareful with assumptions, for example just because they have baby food, doesn’t mean they have a baby, but chances are high). I think it’s important to check the cart, because ideally you want to find someone who possibly eats similiar to what you eat. T-Rexs don’t eat with Triceratops, they pick from different menus. Plus grocery stores are safe places to engage in light, brief, and casual conversation.
2. The gym is great, especially since I am on a new health kick. It is nice to spend time with someone who supports that. Plus anyone who takes the time to work out would consider other ways to engage in a healthy lifestyle. You can meet someone at the gym and invite them to go for a jog, play tennis, or sand volleyball. It’s still exercise and it’s a great way to show off your athleticism. Unless your confidence is sky high, I would recommend meeting a woman before her workout, before she feels too self conscious. You can meet a man in any part of his workout, simply by asking “how do I make my arms stronger, like yours?” then smile!
3. Dog Park, I personally don’t own a dog, but if I did, whew! I jog by the dog park every saturday and there are always people there. I assume many must be strangers to each other, but since their dogs are playing, why not talk to the person next them. It’s interesting, because many well trained dogs are immediately social. They rarely appear to have that awkward tension when they meet a new dog. We all should probably take lessons from dogs (no I’m not referring to sniffing butts).
4. A friend’s cookout/BBQ, your friends are most likely one of your biggest support groups. Your friends most likely will speak highly of you to others (if not, I suggest getting new friends). Attend a friend’s cookout, you might find someone new and the cookout is a common ground to begin conversation, for example, “How do you know the host of the cookout?” Remember, your friends always have other friends.
5. Your home, it’s not a bad idea to host a tailgate party, rooftop party, a bbq, or just a simple gathering of people. I would hope by now you have friends of all genders. This helps, because as I mentioned before your friends have other friends. This is a great way to impress someone with your hosting abilities and most people find it courteous to meet the host and shower them with compliments.
